On the Deconstruction of the Self

Recently while feeling sad and a bit hopeless, my loving husband reminded me of how many obstacles I have overcome throughout my life.   I pick the hardest things to do and then I succeed at that super hard thing.  Power yoga with fused spine? Check.  Single parenting and a challenging career? Check. Recovery from addiction […]

Self Inquiry

Those of us who walk the spiritual path do it because we want to live with relative peace and calm. We want to be reasonably helpful to others.  When our shortcomings stand in the way of our serenity and usefulness, we are off the path, causing us discomfort, irritability, and sometimes outright pain. 

Never Complain, Never Explain

In a last week’s post I shared with you about how shame magically dissipated with compassionate curiosity.  I was working with a new fellow who inadvertently triggered my shame by telling me that a choice I made was wrong.  (When in fact it was neither right or wrong. Just different from his.) That curiosity lead […]

Shame

Recently my kid got into some trouble at school.  I was sure that everyone was talking about what a bad mother I was.  My shame started driving me.  “Let’s judge them before they can judge me, who the hell is responsible for this witch hunt? What happened to grace?  What about forgiveness?”  (Shame can be […]

Spiritual Pride

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,” declares the Lord. “As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9 About 4 years ago I  hit a wall in my relationship with my God. I felt like there was something between […]