A young woman majoring in philosophy at the local college, simply would not accept the premise that anyone would receive grace. Mostly because her world view prohibits receiving anything that you don’t deserve. Her whole premise is that you only get what you deserve. If you do bad things, then you deserve to reap the […]
Category: Trust
Transitions
Being in transition is really scary. We can’t stay where we were and we haven’t arrived at where we are going.
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Morgan Freeman hosts a show called “The Story of God” where he goes around asking religious leaders, scholars and scientists about things like eternity, creation, Armageddon and the like. It’s fascinating and I highly recommend it. On one episode he is talking to a the Karmapa about mediation. Freeman says, “Will you teach me about […]
Never Complain, Never Explain
In a last week’s post I shared with you about how shame magically dissipated with compassionate curiosity. I was working with a new fellow who inadvertently triggered my shame by telling me that a choice I made was wrong. (When in fact it was neither right or wrong. Just different from his.) That curiosity lead […]
Frustrations and Expectations
“I should have just paid for the damn Uber.” My friend had been planning her trip to the airport for a week. NOTHING was going according to plan, it was like the whole Universe was saying, “Give it up! Let me drive!” Public transportation was 45 minutes delayed due to mechanical difficulties, and she missed […]
The Moat of Self Pity
“My life’s a mess. I’m single and will never find anyone to love.” “I’m stuck in this dead end job and will never make any money.” “I’m swimming in debt and I will never be able to retire.” “My kid has ADD and doesn’t have any friends. How did I fail him?” “I can’t stop […]
Coping vs Healing
“I am a rock/ I am an island… and a rock feels no pain/ and and island never cries” Paul Simon Her family of origin is made up of a super critical parent, poverty and bullying. Her first marriage was co-dependent with her fixing him until he got tired of the fixing and left. He […]
