Never Complain, Never Explain

In a last week’s post I shared with you about how shame magically dissipated with compassionate curiosity.  I was working with a new fellow who inadvertently triggered my shame by telling me that a choice I made was wrong.  (When in fact it was neither right or wrong. Just different from his.) That curiosity lead […]

Frustrations and Expectations

“I should have just paid for the damn Uber.” My friend had been planning her trip to the airport for a week.  NOTHING was going according to plan, it was like the whole Universe was saying, “Give it up! Let me drive!” Public transportation was 45 minutes delayed due to mechanical difficulties, and she missed […]

The Moat of Self Pity

“My life’s a mess. I’m single and will never find anyone to love.” “I’m stuck in this dead end job and will never make any money.” “I’m swimming in debt and I will never be able to retire.” “My kid has ADD and doesn’t have any friends. How did I fail him?” “I can’t stop […]

Dark Dirt

Digging in the dirt Stay with me, I need support I’m digging in the dirt To find the places I got hurt – Peter Gabriel I was reading a little parable about a man who was looking for his keys under a streetlamp. A cop came up to him and asked what he was doing.  […]