In a last week’s post I shared with you about how shame magically dissipated with compassionate curiosity. I was working with a new fellow who inadvertently triggered my shame by telling me that a choice I made was wrong. (When in fact it was neither right or wrong. Just different from his.) That curiosity lead […]
Category: Trust
Frustrations and Expectations
“I should have just paid for the damn Uber.” My friend had been planning her trip to the airport for a week. NOTHING was going according to plan, it was like the whole Universe was saying, “Give it up! Let me drive!” Public transportation was 45 minutes delayed due to mechanical difficulties, and she missed […]
The Moat of Self Pity
“My life’s a mess. I’m single and will never find anyone to love.” “I’m stuck in this dead end job and will never make any money.” “I’m swimming in debt and I will never be able to retire.” “My kid has ADD and doesn’t have any friends. How did I fail him?” “I can’t stop […]
Coping vs Healing
“I am a rock/ I am an island… and a rock feels no pain/ and and island never cries” Paul Simon Her family of origin is made up of a super critical parent, poverty and bullying. Her first marriage was co-dependent with her fixing him until he got tired of the fixing and left. He […]
Dark Dirt
Digging in the dirt Stay with me, I need support I’m digging in the dirt To find the places I got hurt – Peter Gabriel I was reading a little parable about a man who was looking for his keys under a streetlamp. A cop came up to him and asked what he was doing. […]
Passion Project
“Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” Oprah Winfrey Tom has this big dream. It’s amazing, enormous and absolutely fantastic. His best attribute is casting the vision for this beatific project. When he tells you the why behind his vision, you feel it in your soul. You find […]
Let go
“Love is what’s left when you let go of absolutely everything you don’t need.” Erich Shiffman “I can’t let go of everything. What will I be? I don’t want to be a non entity.” I completely get it. What would it look like if I were to let go of everything? Would I become nothing? […]
