Last night I was talking to my husband about feeling emotions as they come up and not carrying them with you day to day. It got me to thinking about what the Apostle Paul said about not letting the sun set on your anger. A lot of times that verse is interpreted as not going […]
Last night I instigated a conversation with my work friend about sexual consent. It was fascinating to hear everyone else’s viewpoint. Everyone has an opinion based on their specific life experience. The trick is to find the commonalities of our beliefs. When we do that, we find commonalities in each other. When we stubbornly refuse […]
Trauma is personal. It can be anything. It doesn’t have to be as dramatic as others’. It’s how it affects YOU.
Tom is 12 and in the 7th grade. He got into some serious trouble recently. He says it was the other kid’s fault. Tom, himself, didn’t start it, the other kid was cheating. If the kid hadn’t been cheating then Tom wouldn’t have gotten so mad. If the other kid hadn’t said derogatory things about […]
In a last week’s post I shared with you about how shame magically dissipated with compassionate curiosity. I was working with a new fellow who inadvertently triggered my shame by telling me that a choice I made was wrong. (When in fact it was neither right or wrong. Just different from his.) That curiosity lead […]
Recently my kid got into some trouble at school. I was sure that everyone was talking about what a bad mother I was. My shame started driving me. “Let’s judge them before they can judge me, who the hell is responsible for this witch hunt? What happened to grace? What about forgiveness?” (Shame can be […]
God is rooting for us and wants us to be happy, full of joy and free from the things that hold us back from becoming our best selves. That, I believe is God’s will for me, for you, for all of us.