Fear prevents us from seeing how we can help. It blocks us. We can’t know where the need is because our compulsive self-preservation consumes us.
My dad is an amateur musician. He started playing the guitar when he was 14 years old, playing along with the Kingston Trio, learning finger picking from Peter Paul and Mary, taking bluegrass classes from the guy up the street, and quietly swearing through Bach. By the time I came along, he was an accomplished […]
It is only by tearing down the false perceptions that we can start again.
Selfishness promotes self-pity, blame, victimization. It equally encourages arrogance, pride, jealousy.
If I had been free from the fear of embarrassment, I would have been free to help Cindy out. What a simple example of what true freedom looks like.
When I find that I’m stuck suffering over my suffering, I will ask if I’m being selfish, or isolating or holding on.
Last night I was talking to my husband about feeling emotions as they come up and not carrying them with you day to day. It got me to thinking about what the Apostle Paul said about not letting the sun set on your anger. A lot of times that verse is interpreted as not going […]
Last night I instigated a conversation with my work friend about sexual consent. It was fascinating to hear everyone else’s viewpoint. Everyone has an opinion based on their specific life experience. The trick is to find the commonalities of our beliefs. When we do that, we find commonalities in each other. When we stubbornly refuse […]
Trauma is personal. It can be anything. It doesn’t have to be as dramatic as others’. It’s how it affects YOU.
Tom is 12 and in the 7th grade. He got into some serious trouble recently. He says it was the other kid’s fault. Tom, himself, didn’t start it, the other kid was cheating. If the kid hadn’t been cheating then Tom wouldn’t have gotten so mad. If the other kid hadn’t said derogatory things about […]