In a last week’s post I shared with you about how shame magically dissipated with compassionate curiosity. I was working with a new fellow who inadvertently triggered my shame by telling me that a choice I made was wrong. (When in fact it was neither right or wrong. Just different from his.) That curiosity lead […]
Compassionate Curiosity
My colleague said, “That’s why I didn’t want to do it that way, Because I didn’t want_______.” His reasons were valid but inconsequential. The thing had already been done, and neither one of us could undo it. And in the grand scheme of things, it wasn’t that serious. In a few minutes, we would both […]
Frustrations and Expectations
“I should have just paid for the damn Uber.” My friend had been planning her trip to the airport for a week. NOTHING was going according to plan, it was like the whole Universe was saying, “Give it up! Let me drive!” Public transportation was 45 minutes delayed due to mechanical difficulties, and she missed […]
Shame
Recently my kid got into some trouble at school. I was sure that everyone was talking about what a bad mother I was. My shame started driving me. “Let’s judge them before they can judge me, who the hell is responsible for this witch hunt? What happened to grace? What about forgiveness?” (Shame can be […]
God’s Will
God is rooting for us and wants us to be happy, full of joy and free from the things that hold us back from becoming our best selves. That, I believe is God’s will for me, for you, for all of us.
#NewYearNewYou
It’s that time of year again. Time to reflect on last year and make some choices about what we want out of this year. There are two camps when it comes to #NewYearNewYou There’s the goal setting, vision board making, strategic focused camp and the why-bother-with-stupid-new-year-resolutions-no-one-sticks-to-them-anyway camp. I am firmly in the latter camp. That […]
Community
It was the connection. The connection to my God, to myself and to my friend.
The Moat of Self Pity
“My life’s a mess. I’m single and will never find anyone to love.” “I’m stuck in this dead end job and will never make any money.” “I’m swimming in debt and I will never be able to retire.” “My kid has ADD and doesn’t have any friends. How did I fail him?” “I can’t stop […]
Momentum
Allowing God’s spirit to do those things within me that I absolutely would prefer not to do takes an enormous amount of willingness on my part.
Disorderly Emotions
Yesterday I was volunteering at my kid’s school library. The main job is to shelve books then go back and tidy up the shelves. There is something so soothing about about shelving books. Each one has a specific place where it goes. Fiction is alphabetical so my head is singing the ABC’s as my eyes […]
Heather Dellapi 