Trauma is personal. It can be anything. It doesn’t have to be as dramatic as others’. It’s how it affects YOU.
Take it to the Mat
When the junk is oozing like sticky tar out of its deep hidey-hole I take it to the mat.
Transitions
Being in transition is really scary. We can’t stay where we were and we haven’t arrived at where we are going.
Blame
Tom is 12 and in the 7th grade. He got into some serious trouble recently. He says it was the other kid’s fault. Tom, himself, didn’t start it, the other kid was cheating. If the kid hadn’t been cheating then Tom wouldn’t have gotten so mad. If the other kid hadn’t said derogatory things about […]
Try
Morgan Freeman hosts a show called “The Story of God” where he goes around asking religious leaders, scholars and scientists about things like eternity, creation, Armageddon and the like. It’s fascinating and I highly recommend it. On one episode he is talking to a the Karmapa about mediation. Freeman says, “Will you teach me about […]
Never Complain, Never Explain
In a last week’s post I shared with you about how shame magically dissipated with compassionate curiosity. I was working with a new fellow who inadvertently triggered my shame by telling me that a choice I made was wrong. (When in fact it was neither right or wrong. Just different from his.) That curiosity lead […]
Compassionate Curiosity
My colleague said, “That’s why I didn’t want to do it that way, Because I didn’t want_______.” His reasons were valid but inconsequential. The thing had already been done, and neither one of us could undo it. And in the grand scheme of things, it wasn’t that serious. In a few minutes, we would both […]
